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This is the kind of narrative people need to hear. Thank you for converting your vulnerability into essay form where people can actually hear the truth of what’s going on. We live in a backwards society thats sells sexual dysfunction, disempowerment, and enslavement to the masses like it’s empowerment or something. Crazy times. But stories like this have so much impact.

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Yeah, it does sound bleak. The idea of human intimacy being reduced to an algorithm-driven, hyper-commercialized transaction is unsettling. In a truly dystopian setting, the performers might have little control over their own work, being forced to conform to ever-escalating audience demands just to survive.

It raises deeper questions about technology, capitalism, and the way human connection is being reshaped. The more digital our lives become, the more we risk turning even the most personal aspects of life—like relationships and sexuality—into commodities.

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Thank you for your hightly intelligent comment!

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Sexual relationships have always been a commodity

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Please try to take care of yourself this time and not end up in the hospital again.

And thank you for the restack.

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Thank you Justin, I will!

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Thank you for such a fascinating and devastating look at the inside machinations of OnlyFans. I think we all need to listen to and weigh these stories carefully, especially when it comes to topics as taboo and prone to cognitive distortion as porn and sex work.

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I appreciate your praise and support! If you ever want to read my more extreme and more personal posts, please consider becoming a paid subscriber! I have put those behind a (cheap) paywall for my safety, because I am still working in the sex industry and they can doxx me, but the informative posts will always be free!

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It’s my pleasure! These stories need to be told and heard. I will look at the finances and see if I can do that.

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No rush at all, only if and when you can! Thank you for being here! I started 2 months ago and I have realized that most authors who have 1k+ subscribers won’t even respond to smaller blogs, so I appreciate your down to earth attitude!

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We all do what we can to lift each other up <3

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This is so awful, I am so sorry you have to go through these things but also thank you for shedding light on the topic. I feel like most people refuse to have an open dialogue on what the industry is really like, and they love to say that it’s empowering for women but they never want to listen to women who are actually in the business. Wishing you the best ❤️

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I briefly created an onlyfans account and being that I’m not an ugly punter with no social skills I found that some of the women appeared to want to talk to me. It was odd to log on and immediately get a message request from a creator and ultimately it was unbearably sad to think that the basic levels of politeness and empathy that I showed made me stand out to them.

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Dude you are not their special guy. These hoes don't want you. They want your money. No exceptions.

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That’s the thing, I didn’t give them any money though they sure tried to sell me butthole pictures. And I have to ask you, did your parents have any children that lived?

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I am an only child.

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Imagine being this delusional and clueless

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Ikr?

“Heheh… I’m not as creepy as those other guys! Surely when the girls see how witty and non creepy I am, browsing a site where whores sell themselves, they’ll appreciate me! Them reaching out is totally not because they’re hoping to sell me something eventually, but because I’m DIFFERENT than the other creeps!”

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You're being a little harsh. I don't think frequenting whores makes you creepy in and of itself.

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Did your parents have any children that lived?

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are you implying I am actually a zombie?!

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I imply absolutely nothing, OF is purely transactional. I went there specifically to find what I enjoy looking at. If you are a decent human being you should be as well mannered as possible . So i engage the women courteously and with appreciation. Amazingly they appreciate not being insulted and in turn treated fairly. I see someone like you as an ignorant, self important jackass with no more self awareness than a B movie zombie.

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Thank you for explaining your paywall policy. It makes perfect sense. I wish others would do the same. I appreciate the transparency.

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Man that’s horrible , I’m sorry

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Thank you for reading and being here!

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Did grandpa cat make it? , canny find no 2

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It will be uploaded within the next 48 hours, please subscribe to get a notification via email!

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Thanks

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I can’t I’m skint out of work just now sorry

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I mean subscribe for free, you will still get the story.

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Grief this is brutal, you have opened my eyes. Naturally I had heard of, "Only fans," but no way would I even think of degrading any other human being like that. I believe it's called empathy, I understand it takes all sorts. Yes I did research, "Adult Pony play," for one of my characters in my first book. That was triggered by a customer wanting Pony boots re-shod, and she brought in the rest of the leather tack for repair.😳😉

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Thank you for your comment, I am happy that my essay helped.

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If we can’t trust women under 25 to not apply the slightest bit of future foresight and think about the consequences of their actions… Why are we letting them vote again?

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“They are empathy and critical thinking deficient and incapable of putting themselves in someone else’s shoes.”

LMAO! Talk about cognitive dissonance.

Lady, you made very good money lying to people, and taking advantage of their loneliness.

Shit, you even roped in some other girl into your dishonest business and paid her to pretend she was you.

You’re not the hero here. In fact, you manage to make whoring yourself out on the street corner, look like an honest and decent way to make a living.

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I think her whole blog is a total lie. She was never an onlyfans girl and larping as one

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